Be Happy

Some days it’s easier said than done. I know this. But if you were to ask me what I want more than anything… it is happiness. For me. For my kiddos. For my family. For my friends.

Sometimes though, to get to the happy, you have to wade through the grey.

And that kinda sucks.

A lot.

But … in the wise words of Buddha {I did not verify this – it’s quite possible he didn’t say this at all so don’t burst my bubble if that’s the case}
“Happiness does not depend on what you have or who you are; It solely relies on what you think”

Happiness does not depend on what you have or who you are; It solely relies on what you think - Buddha

Ponder that for a moment… That means that regardless of the circumstances, we are in complete control of our happiness.

There will be those who call bullshit here.  Those who say that they’ve got a shit hand dealt to them and they can’t be happy in the midst of that… There will be the professional victims I piss off with this post who say that I should walk a mile in their shoes and see if it’s still “that easy.”

And to that I say… I never claimed it was easy.

Those who know my story… the WHOLE story… have commented more than once on my being the most put together fucked up person they know.  Those who have heard me apologize for comparing my past to theirs have commented that I had the worst of it.  I share this, not to brag, but rather to point out that my life hasn’t been all unicorns and rainbows…we ALL have our own flavor of crazy we are dealing with… and yet, most days, I still try to find my happy.

Oh sure, I go through the grey.  I too am guilty of feeling victimized by circumstances.  I trip over the “why me” syndrome too.  I’m not perfect and never claimed to be. But eventually… I come back to the happy because that is really the most important thing.

That, and love.  But when you look at it, are Happy and Love that far apart? Sometimes, finding the happy is just another way that I love myself by not letting anyone or anything dictate my emotions. And is it possible to love without happy?  and I’m not even talking about the romantic variety… but to love yourself, your family, your friends… can you do that if you yourself aren’t happy?  Oh sure, you can go through the motions and wear the appearance of the feeling others want to see but how real is it?

I never said it was easy.  Just worth it.


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  1. I think striving for happiness is overrated. I have moments of joy and mostly I’m kind of just smiling or looking at the snow covered trees out my window and it’s a GOOD feeling but not anything I would consider to be like HAPPY HAPPY WOOHOO but that might just be me and my black heart made of coal.

    Or maybe my happy and my love are just mellow. 😉 LOL sure they are. I mean it’s possible but not really probable. I feel a day drinking coming on. (Not quite yet it’s only 9am but hey, it’s 8pm in the Phillipines!)

  2. I agree with you. It can be such hard work to push through the gray, but the happiness on the other side is so worth it.

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